“We are called to love, not to be loved.”
—Dan Mohler, School of Kingdom Living, Part 9
When I heard Dan Mohler say that, my mind was blown. I suddenly saw the root of all my problems…and it was me. It was the pattern of thinking I had got stuck in without realizing it. A “me-centered” thought life.
Suddenly my mind was opened to a whole new way of life, the life Jesus called me to as He died on the cross for my sins. The life He called me to as He washed his disciple’s feet (John 13:1-17). The life He called me to as He told Simon, “If you really love me, then you will feed my sheep” (John 21:17).
In an instant, I felt all my problems disintegrate into nothing. Suddenly I realized, other people were more important than me. I am not here on earth to receive, but to give. All I must do is seek the kingdom of God, and He will provide all that I need in the process!
If we are here to love, then we no longer have to fear being rejected, because we can’t be rejected if we aren’t living to be accepted.
When I know I am loved by God, I won’t need to feel loved by anyone else! Because only the love of God is perfect and fully satisfying! “In His presence is fullness of joy and at his right hand are pleasures forevermore!” (Psalm 16:11)
In everything I did, I showed you that by this kind of hard work we must help the weak, remembering the words the Lord Jesus himself said: ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’
If we are here to love, then we no longer have to fear being rejected, because we can’t be rejected if we aren’t living to be accepted. When we learn to walk in the truth that God has accepted us, and ADOPTED us into His family, then nothing can shake us. Our identity is built on the Rock, our God and Refuge, not the shifting sands of the world. Storms may blow around us, but we shall not be moved.
I used to struggle with abandonment issues and sometimes feel left out, but when I remember that I am here for people, I no longer feel hurt by people. When we realize we are here to love and to bless, praying for those who persecute us becomes MUCH easier.
And when you are tempted in your anger to throw stones at those who are throwing stones at you, try and remember that you are called to a higher purpose. You are called to be a living sacrifice (even if that means sacrificing your pride), to manifest the love of God to His people. We are not called to throw stones, but to be living stones with which God can build His glorious Kingdom with! What an honor!
“And you are living stones that God is building into his spiritual temple. What’s more, you are his holy priests. Through the mediation of Jesus Christ, you offer spiritual sacrifices that please God.”
–1 Peter 2:5